A little Change goes a long way

Transformation: A Little Bit of Change Goes a Long Way

BY JENNIFER LOVELY ON DECEMBER 13, 2022

Transformation is a BIG topic—from social media to the world of coaching and therapy—AND it is a bit elusive. 

Here is why:

Most of us think of transformation as the weekend warrior work with Tony Robbins or Landmark Forum. You get filled with new information, someone shares all the ways you feel inside but haven’t had the words to express, and you even allow yourself to be challenged.

You share your feelings in front of 50 people; you shed tears and leave feeling free, open, and vulnerable. You feel terrific for about one week, and Monday comes around, your car doesn’t start, your partner yells at you, and you find yourself sitting in traffic with all the negative emotions creeping back in. 

What happened to the warrior? 

First off—let’s get this out of the way—this is NORMAL. Secondly, you did have a moment of change, and you experienced what all humans experience (even if only for a moment or a week). You had a shift in the way that you are living. You had a few moments of believing it could be different and a moment of feeling truly different. 

Transformation, at its core, is fleeting unless practiced and generated. 

Transformation is about changing the very form or nature of something. 

Transforming ourselves is a lifelong journey that inhabits all of us. It requires us to shift beliefs about who we think we are, and who our families, our friendships, and our community believe us to be. Rather than be limited to our own beliefs or those impressed upon us by others, we can choose who we are and then live who we are from our essence. Our Essence—our authentic self from source. 

The Path to Transformation Starts with Small Changes

“Transformation” carries the hefty connotation of an enormous investment of energy and self—and that, right off the bat, can be enough to scare us away. Yet look at the transformations we can achieve when we commit to the process:

  • All of who we are and are not. 

  • Noticing our being and others.

  • Practicing service and acknowledgment in ourselves and others.

  • Noticing love and allowing it.

  • Separating our life force and our experiences.

Transformation, at its core, is fleeting unless practiced and generated. 

Transformation is about changing the very form or nature of something.

Fortunately, our road to transformation starts first with change. “Change” is defined as a substitute or replacement. We begin changing by replacing unhealthy habits with healthy habits, such as… 

  • Starting your day with water with lemon rather than coffee.

  • Going to bed 30 minutes earlier.

  • Writing a gratitude list.

  • Creating a manifestation list and taking small steps toward your manifestation.

  • Choosing from your heart (not your mind).

  • Finding a hobby or something creative to work on.

  • Creating space in your life/home for a relationship with Self and others. 

Not sure where to begin with habit changing?

Jennifer Lovely