coaching with jennifer lovely

My work concerns the relationship to the ’ Self,’ our soul, and our highest capacity of being. It is the part of us that is transformed, transcends, and transforms us. And most of us are confused by that because we are ‘doing’ all of the “right” things - we are working climbing corporate ladders or running our businesses, raising kids, partaking in what society says we must participate in to be living a fulfilled life. We sometimes ask ourselves, “Is this all there is?” OR you may begin to struggle with anxiety or fear, have a negative Self - talk and have unrealistic expectations of yourself.

Our lives do not happen in a vacuum, and I assert that most of us have unresolved trauma or adverse childhood experiences that cause us maladaptive coping mechanisms. What happens is that we are Adults with child-like coping mechanisms.

  • Taking things personally

  • Lacking boundaries

  • Inner critic

  • Emotional triggers

  • Overthinking

  • Intimacy issues

  • People Pleasing

  • Approval Seeking

  • Lack of Trust (in Self)

  • Defended

While we might judge ourselves for feeling these feelings or even feel like something is innately wrong with us, I want you to know that there is nothing wrong with you. 

Instead, we have ways in which we need to defend people please to survive or belong throughout our childhood. And we have continued to use these methods because they worked until they didn’t work.

 Our relationships with ourselves are the MOST critical relationships we have and can create. Our relationships with ourselves determine how we relate to others; our external relationships directly relate to our inner selves. These relationships are divine reflections of who we are and show up in our lives for opportunities to heal by our triggers and shadows, which show us all the places that need attention and unconditional love. We are multifaceted beings with many parts to ourselves; the work is to integrate and love us to create wholeness.

 Working with me requires you to show up with curiosity and wonder about yourself. No room for shoulding, judging, blaming, or shaming, but curiosity is the key to our wholeness because it allows our window of tolerance to begin opening, and you can become whole from that opening.