We live in a world that rewards us for being inauthentic and punishes us for authenticity. We live in a culture that seduces us from our true selves with every possible reward and promise of fulfillment through artificial means. We live in a world where being unconscious is the reward for living in our society, which has us walking around confused, unintegrated, defended, and lacking compassion for ourselves first and others second.

My work concerns the relationship to the ’ Self,’ our soul, and our highest capacity of being. It is the part of us that is transformed, transcends, and transforms us. And most of us are confused by that because we are ‘doing’ all of the “right” things - we are working climbing corporate ladders or running our businesses, raising kids, partaking in what society says we must participate in to be living a fulfilled life. We sometimes ask ourselves, “Is this all there is?” OR you may begin to struggle with anxiety or fear, have a negative Self - talk and have unrealistic expectations of yourself.

Our lives do not happen in a vacuum, and I assert that most of us have unresolved trauma or adverse childhood experiences that cause us maladaptive coping mechanisms. What happens is that we are Adults with child-like coping mechanisms.

Taking things personally
Lacking boundaries
Inner critic
Emotional triggers
Overthinking
Intimacy issues
People Pleasing
Approval Seeking
Lack of Trust (in Self)
Defended

While we might judge ourselves for feeling these feelings or even feel like something is wrong with us, I want you to know there is nothing wrong with you.
Instead, we have ways in which we need to defend 'people please" to survive or belong throughout childhood. And we have continued to use these methods because they worked until they didn’t work. Our relationships with ourselves are the MOST critical relationships we have and can create. Our relationships with ourselves determine how we relate to others; our external relationships directly relate to our inner selves.

These relationships are divine reflections of who we are and show up in our lives for opportunities to heal by our triggers and shadows, which show us all the places that need attention and unconditional love. We are multifaceted beings with many parts to ourselves; the work is to integrate and love us to create wholeness.

Ready to Heal?

I am a believer that most of us show up to want to heal because attunement and safety were lacking in our lives from the ages of 0-7, and it is in those years that we are in the 'emotional' stages of development during those years we have no way of integrating the emotions, and our caregivers did not know how to either - I recognize the vulnerability in allowing oneself to be seen and witnessed; years of resistance to allowing it, and having allowed it has been a beautiful process of allowing intimacy, love, joy, and beauty into my life.